Posted by
Playful Walrus on Thursday, May 31, 2007 6:23:43 PM
I don’t generally hate people who are homosexual, but I do not like whiny crybabies
who do things like this.
The popular online dating service eHarmony was sued Thursday for refusing to offer its services to gays, lesbians and bisexuals.
A lawsuit alleging discrimination based on sexual orientation was filed in Los Angeles Superior Court on behalf of Linda Carlson, who was denied access to eHarmony because she is gay.
Lawyers bringing the action said they believed it was the first lawsuit of its kind against eHarmony, which has long rankled the gay community with its failure to offer a “men seeking men” or “women seeking women” option.
Is that
really the same thing as illegal discrimination based on sexual orientation? Strictly speaking, couldn’t a homosexual person sign up with the service?
They were seeking to make it a class action lawsuit on behalf of gays and lesbians denied access to the dating service.
Evidently, they are unaware of the 2,641,230 other online matchmaking site options, or that using eHarmony.com is a voluntary way to do a voluntary thing - find someone.
This is so stupid. All this will do is make lawyers rich and nobody else happy. Here’s the real problem, the real reason they are going after the service:
eHarmony was founded in 2000 by evangelical Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren and had strong early ties with the influential religious conservative group Focus on the Family.
Gotta hit them because they were founded by …oooh… religious folks. Guess what? So was marriage!
It has more than 12 million registered users, and heavy television advertising has made it one of the nation's biggest Internet dating sites.
Gotta hit them because they are $uccessful.
Carlson, who lives in the San Francisco Bay area, tried to use the site's dating services in February 2007. When she was denied access, she wrote to eHarmony explaining its anti-gay policy was discriminatory under California law but the company refused to change it, according to the lawsuit.
Was she really
denied access? Does the site really ask if you are a homosexual or not? If I recall correctly, the site denies matchmaking services to people who are still married, have been divorced “too many” times, or are socially/emotionally unhealthy for a long-term relationship. Maybe that was why she was denied? Now, maybe discrimination on the basis of marital status is okay, but we know California law doesn’t allow for discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation. Which illustrates the problems with laws like that being applied to private businesses.
“Such outright discrimination is hurtful and disappointing for a business open to the public in this day and age,” she said.
Wow, you must
really think highly of the services EHarmony.com provides for you so be so distraught. I guess in a way that is a compliment to them.
Commenting in the past on eHarmony's gay and lesbian policy, Warren has said that he does not know the dynamics of same-sex relationships but he expects the principles to be different.
Men and women are different. That’s why laws pretending that same-sex relationships are identical to both-sex relationships are absurd.
“This lawsuit is about changing the landscape and making a statement out there that gay people, just like heterosexuals, have the right and desire to meet other people with whom they can fall in love,” said Carlson lawyer Todd Schneider.
You have that right, sure - you can do that any number of ways. You can still do it right now. But why have we gotten to a point in our society where you have a RIGHT to FORCE someone else to perform a nonessential service for you?
Carlson's lawyers expect a significant number of gays and lesbians to join the class action, which seeks to force eHarmony to end its policy and unspecified damages for those denied eHarmony services based on their sexual orientation.
I would hope most people would have better things to do with their time.
Warren has stated his goal with the service was to reduce the divorce rate by matching people for
marriage who are compatible in ways that would bode well for their long-term happiness together. In California, it still takes a member of each sex to have a marriage.
The cynical side of me says the eHarmony.com should go ahead and offer same-sex matching, which would come without the secret formula Warren developed for the both-sex dynamic, but would only use the restrictions the users specify (i.e. height, age, location, smoker/nonsmoker, etc.) in matching them. That way, eHarmony would still get their money, and the controversy would go away, and how would the same-sex community be any the wiser? How would they know that their relationships weren't lasting as long as the both-sex relationships that started through the service? The downside for eHarmony.com, of course, would be an overall decline in their "success" rate.
Some other points...
What damages has anyone really suffered, given that there are many other services available?
Can a restaurant be sued or religious discrimination for refusing to serve kosher or vegan meals? If JDate really is only for Jews, can I sue?
I think this is a good example of why businesses should be allowed to refuse service to anyone. EHarmony.com provides services to people in a voluntary exchange - the customer supplies information and money, and EHarmony provides the service. I realize that our laws require nondiscrimination for certain categories, but I think those laws may do more harm than good. I can see the need for them when it comes to government services. I do not see the need when they are applied to businesses, especially businesses that do not perform an "essential" service, like say a paramedic service.
If this lawsuit is successful, I think heterosexual people should flood traditionally/explicitly homosexual venues/services and sue if they are not served or are harassed or assaulted. For goodness sakes, eHarmony.com is based on understanding of the dynamics between the sexes. Men and women are different, after all, and if they weren’t you wouldn’t know you were “gay”! Get a life.